Episode 043: Kink Craft’s Pixie and Andrew

Episode the forty-third; Wherein the Pageist chats with Pixie and Andrew of Kink Craft, a DIY kink gear shop that teaches people how to make their own toys.

.47 Intro & Announcements:

4.30 Interview:

56.18 Closing Remarks:

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Shop Review: Kink Craft

General Description

Kink Craft is a DIY sex toy company based in Britain. The site is clean, uncluttered and includes a blog and podcast.

Features

The site has videos on how to make BDSM toys including paracord floggers, various types of paracord handcuffs, zippers (not the type that goes on jackets) and more.

There are also kits to make toys: you don’t have to buy the kits to use the videos and can get your own materials yourself. Some courses (videos) are free and some cost a fee, just like you’d pay if someone was teaching you something in person. (Courses are included free if you purchase a kit.)

If you’re not interested in making your own, the site has ready-made toys and there are more types available than there are in the DIY section. Fair dues, there. The snake whip seems fairly difficult to make and the categories in the Courses section are ‘Beginner’, ‘Intermediate’ and ‘Advanced’. There’s no ‘Graduate’ level, which is what that one looks like.

The site includes articles written by a variety of kinky people from around the internet on topics from what it takes to be a sex blogger to being a lesbian with a boyfriend to the intersection of feminism and submission. Though the articles are written by a variety of people, the illustrations for each are done by Amy Gardner and are delightful. When I see them in my Twitter feed I know exactly where they’ve come from. (@KinkCraft)

Once a week the owners put out a podcast (which will be reviewed next Monday, after I’ve had the time to listen to more episodes), where they discuss the blog post of the week.

There is information on how to care for their products—both paracord and suede and leather. There’s also a page on how to care for latex so I wonder if they used to carry latex materials or if someone just has a fetish and they’re being helpful for other fetishists. They have photos of some latex crafts on their Instagram so it could be either.

There’s an area to book them to come lead a kinky crafting party (this is probably limited to England, but if you wanted to fly them somewhere exotic I’d bet they wouldn’t turn you down).

Finally, there are areas to see if they have workshops scheduled and an event calendar.

Lotta white. The pretty purple wallpaper is nice, though.

Flaws

I don’t know if this counts as a flaw, as it’s so common in the Internet, but the site has a lot of white space, which at first makes it seem there’s less information than there is. Really, it’s just well-organised.

The font is a light purple, which can be a bit of a strain on tired eyes. But it matches the elegant wallpaper so I’ll give it a pass. It’s a minor issue.

Overall review

According to the website the mission of the shop/site is:

If there is one thing better than really good kinky toys, it is really good kinky toys you made yourself. We want to teach you everything you need to know to make your own toys and have a lot of fun doing it.

Everything about the site works towards this goal—it is tidy and easy to navigate, the blog and podcast update regularly and the owners clearly care (and know) about what they’re doing.

Besides the review of the Kink Craft podcast next week, I’ll also be interviewing the owners of the shop in the coming weeks and I’ll be reviewing one of their mini-floggers. (After I make it).

How to Clean a Flogger and Why with daddyjohny

This is the post to which I was referring in my essay on Thursday about the people preaching abstinence-only flogging education. In it, DaddyJohny talks about possibly unsafe behavior that goes on in the scene and a way to minimize risk by cleaning floggers.

The original post is here on Fetlife, if you’d like to give it some love or contribute (civilly) to the discussion. I’ve decided to keep the entire post in recognition of the ridiculousness that it’s even an issue (see my essay if you don’t know what I mean).

Eeesh. I am still getting emails asking me about cleaning floggers. I recently posted a rant about nasty floggers being used on multiple people in our community. It apparently is a very hot topic. I deleted my rant because it was misconstrued or I didn’t get my point across. I’m going to try again, being more diligent with my words.

(I use upper case for all BDSM titles. You don’t have to like it).

I have seen many bad practices, in my opinion, over the years in the scene. Primarily club play. I’ve seen a Top whip a Bottom bloody with a single tail, then flogged the same person with a leather flogger, then that flogger was thrown into the Top’s backpack, only for that same flogger to come out later that night to be used on a different Bottom. In my opinion, this is an appallingly poor practice. When I confronted this person, his reply was that he can’t afford a new flogger each time he plays. Many years later I saw this same person play, and his practice with floggers did not seem to improve. I have seen Tops flog a Bottom’s vagina, rub the falls up against her, then use that same technique on another female Bottom an hour or so later. I’ve seen it. I know it has taken place. I have indeed read that certain diseases have been known to live without a host for a specific amount of time.

The Center for Disease Control and Prevention does not recommend using sex toys on multiple partners as it may spread disease. The leather flogger is a sex toy, (in my opinion). Any BDSM toy has the potential to carry and transmit infectious disease. I hold the belief that any leather toy which comes into contact with any bodily fluid, should not be used on another person. That being said, we all know that this is taking place in many arenas in the BDSM community.

I try not to break skin when I play. On the rare occasions that I do, I retire that flogger. I have always carried large zip lock bags in my kit, for just such a rare occasion. I separate that flogger so that it does not contaminate the rest of my gear. Anyone that I have played with will attest to this.

Even still, I do indeed use disinfectants on my floggers for the mere funk (gross) factor. It makes me feel better about my floggers. I use disinfectants even on my floggers that have been slated for particular significant play partners. About ten years or so ago, I asked my doctor for her opinion on what would be the best way to clean my leather floggers. My method is to completely saturate, submerse my leather falls in a hospital grade germicidal disinfectant such as Citrus 2 that meets the OSHA Bloodborne Pathogen Standard. I leave the falls saturated for 15 to 20 minutes. Then with soap and warm water, I rinse the leather falls of chemicals. I let the flogger dry, separating the falls from each other and straightening them. I let the flogger completely aerate, (completely dry) before re-hydrating them with mink oil. This method does not guarantee that the falls are completely free of every pathogen under the sun. This should not be considered a sterilization. Leather is a porous fibrous material. It is not the ideal material for keeping it free of pathogens. Due to the fact that leather is a porous material, even using disinfectants does not mean that the flogger is disinfected. It is more sanitized than disinfected.

My method for cleaning leather floggers will indeed damage or shorten the life of the flogger. There are many other techniques out there that claim equal effectiveness without damaging the leather. There are so many different ideas on how to clean, rehydrate and care for leather falls. Most adult toy manufacturers or flogger craftsman will tell you that harsh disinfectant cleaners will cause damage to your flogger. If you sell something, you can not recommend a method of cleaning to your customer that will destroy the product. It is my opinion, my opinion only, (this is for the flogger owners) that when it comes to cleaning a flogger of the funk factor, the longevity of the flogger should not even be a consideration. If you do not feel that your floggers are safe, replace your floggers.

There are so many good suggestions out there for safety in regards to using floggers. The best one that I have heard is for a Bottom to carry around his or her own flogger. Though, I am not too sure how realistic this is from what I have seen in our community. Plus I personally am limited on how I can flog with a flogger I am not familiar with. A really good friend of mine lets his floggers aerate for a week in-between floggings and never lets the floggers touch bodily fluids. There is also the suggestion that using an autoclave would be ideal. That seems to be sound advice however I am not too sure about the practicality of that. Some people recommend the use of bleach and they claim it is least harmful to the flogger. There are so many different viewpoints on this topic and many of them sound like good advice. You should do your own homework (research) and find out what level of risk you are comfortable with. More importantly, you should find out what level of risk your play partner is comfortable with.

The point of my original rant was not to tell someone how to clean their floggers nor give anyone the impression that my method will free you of risk. I was not trying to get into the particulars of what is the best technique for being safe. It was merely a rant about those who throw caution to the wind, solely because of the high expense of their floggers.

My technique on sanitizing my floggers is not intended nor implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice.

I wrote in my previous rant…….. Anyone who cares more for the longevity of their floggers than the person they are playing with, does not deserve to be wielding a flogger in the first place. I fucking stand by that statement. You can send me your hate mail now. I promise I will try to respond as soon as I can. As Tops who play with multiple people, presenting ourselves as Masters of our craft, I feel that we have an obligation to be as safe as we can. It is important that Bottoms are informed of all risk. If we present ourselves as professionals, we need to act as such.

I welcome different opinions as comments. I encourage those who might have more information to leave it here. It can only help our community. We should be talking about this. Everyone’s opinion matters in matters of safety.

However, if you should choose to attack me or anyone else with disparaging remarks or name calling in open forum, I will delete your comment and block you.

I borrowed this, please read:

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Clean is a relative term.

~Sanitize: to free from dirt as by cleaning

~Disinfect: The use of a chemical procedure that eliminates virtually all recognized pathogenic microorganisms but not necessarily all microbial forms on inanimate objects. Disinfection is often confused with sterilization, but they are not the same thing. Disinfection does not remove all microbes, nor does it eliminate spores. Disinfection is generally used on hard surfaces (counter tops, etc.), but may not be sufficient for tools/toys that come in contact (including indirect contact) with the body.

~High-level Disinfect: Destruction of all microorganisms, with the exception of high numbers of bacterial spores.

~Sterilize: To destroy all living microorganisms, as pathogenic or saprophytic bacteria, vegetative forms, and spores. Sterile is an absolute; something is either sterile or it is not. There is no in-between

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Also, another suggestion, if you do feel you will be coming into contact with bodily fluids, perhaps a disposable flogger would work for some. You can learn how to make a disposable rope flogger here:

http://bdsmterms.com/extras/bpcat999.html

The Most Beautiful Flogger

Look at that thing. It's the physical manifestation of sex. Unf. Jeebus.

Look at that. It’s the physical manifestation of sex. Unf. Jeebus.

I got the image from [dead link] though I would love to know where this beauty came from.

It’s my birthday today. So I’m posting this gorgeousness.

And this gorgeousness:

I have never been a 'car person' but damn if she doesn't make that car sexy.

Look at that. It’s the physical manifestation of sex. Unf. Jeebus. (Not the car.)

(Screenshot courtesy of one of the RabesBabes–you know who you are–thank you, lovely.)

Because you *know* the Ultimate Domme up there would own that flogger. And she’d swing it like a pro.

Excuse me, I need to be alone with my thoughts.

Shut up, it’s my birthday. I can think about a beautiful flogger holding a beautiful flogger if I want.