Tag Archive: Dominance and submission

May 30 2017

Decoding Your Kink by Galen Fous

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{This is the text of the book review from episode 52.} This episode’s book review is Decoding Your Kink: Guide to Explore, Share and Enjoy Your Wildest Sexual Desires by Galen Fous. Whose name I hope I am pronouncing correctly. I received this book for free, but that has never stopped me from being honest …

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May 23 2017

Episode 052: Decoding Your Kink

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Episode the fifty-second; Wherein the Pageist seems to have become an adult at some point, meditates on the importance of finding your place and learns about her personal erotic myth. The book reviewed is Decoding Your Kink: Guide to Explore, Share and Enjoy Your Wildest Sexual Desires by Galen Fous. .45 Intro and Announcements: The …

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Feb 12 2017

Sub Journal 008: Constancy to Purpose

The secret to success is constancy to purpose –Benjamin Disraeli My third year in the scene begins this week and this is the motto for the year. I’m applying it to both my business (the podcast and website) and my own submission. A person can only advance so far allowing life to happen to them. …

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Jun 25 2016

Dominance is Not About Being an Ass with undressedl

This week’s mentor post focuses on something we instinctively know but may not put into words well. That dominance isn’t about shouting or calling attention to how incredible you are. If you have to tell others that you are [nice/trustworthy/dominant] it means you aren’t confident in your ability to demonstrate those qualities with your actions. …

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Apr 02 2016

Submission and Dominance Are Not Gifts

This post is by someone on Fetlife who did not wish to be credited. It addresses the oft-repeated phrase, ‘submission is a gift,’ and introduces a different philosophy of power exchange. Submission and dominance are not gifts. Let’s everyone GTF over ourselves. Yes you gave me your submission and yes, you can uncollar anytime you …

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Feb 06 2016

What Dominance and submission is with SirStarryNight

This week’s Mentor post comes from Tumblr user SirStarryNight. It’s a nice, concise primer for people wondering what BDSM is and is not. There are definitions of the main people you’ll find on either side of the slash and, of course, not everyone will completely agree with one another’s definitions, but this post is still …

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Oct 10 2015

Equality in D/s with Innermind

Innermind writes a lot on FetLife. A lot. This time around he’s talking about equality in power exchange relationships. Which is a real thing. But I’ll let him explain. D/s is about equality, seriously D/s is a relationship between equals. When you first say that, it almost sounds like a punchline to a joke. Because …

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Aug 22 2015

The Five Cs of Good D/s with Skyfire

This week’s Mentor post is a long one, but outstanding. It’s advice for how to have a fulfilling D/s relationship no matter which side of the slash you’re on. The Five C’s of Good Dominance and Submission Fetlife, for good or ill, has been a great tool to communicate with other kinky folks, and to …

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Aug 15 2015

What a Dom Actually Is with sexsmurf

Many people have a clear idea of what a ‘Real Dom/me’ is. And they get those opinions from our culture. Because the concept of certain traits being equated with dominance are inherent in our society we don’t notice them and then can’t work out why we aren’t getting what we want. In order to help …

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Jun 27 2015

Reasons to Submit with Brittunculi

This week’s Mentor post is from FetLife member Brittunculi, who is in a D/s relationship with Innermind. I’ve posted his work before and I’m sure I will do again. They both write extensively and articulately about their relationship–about how power exchange looks and feels from both sides of the slash–and it’s clear that there is …

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Jun 12 2015

Thoughts on Secretary: Then and Now

When Secretary was released in 2002 I was immediately intrigued (because the idea of being someone’s secretary greatly appealed). I remember liking it immensely upon first viewing, though for the life of me I can’t recall if it was in a cinema or on DVD. I do remember renting the DVD from Netflix and watching …

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Jun 05 2015

The Duke of Burgundy

This review is free of spoilers, though in some ways this film is better if you know nothing about it going in. It may sound odd, but I recommend not reading this review, or any review. Just watch the film—it’s incredible. A young woman, Evelyn (Chiara D’Anna) arrives at her employer’s house—Cynthia (Sidse Babett Knudsen)—a …

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