Tag Archives: Dominance and submission

The Bookshop Experience

[This is text of the book reviews from episode 71.] As mentioned in previous episodes, I worked in independent bookshops for years—if you’ve ever wondered what it would be like to be one of my regular customers who’d ask for recommendations for yourself or for gifts this piece will give you an idea. This writing […]

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Episode 071: My History of Sexy Reading

Episode the seventy-first; wherein the Pageist has some very good news, some potentially interesting news and gives her listeners the Bookshop Experience. This episode includes 30 mini book reviews. .45 Intro and Announcements: A big thank you to my patrons! You’ve kept my head afloat and my sanity intact this year. There was one new […]

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Decoding Your Kink by Galen Fous

{This is the text of the book review from episode 52.} This episode’s book review is Decoding Your Kink: Guide to Explore, Share and Enjoy Your Wildest Sexual Desires by Galen Fous. Whose name I hope I am pronouncing correctly. I received this book for free, but that has never stopped me from being honest […]

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Episode 052: Decoding Your Kink

Episode the fifty-second; Wherein the Pageist seems to have become an adult at some point, meditates on the importance of finding your place and learns about her personal erotic myth. The book reviewed is Decoding Your Kink: Guide to Explore, Share and Enjoy Your Wildest Sexual Desires by Galen Fous. .45 Intro and Announcements: The […]

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Dominance is Not About Being an Ass with undressedl

This week’s mentor post focuses on something we instinctively know but may not put into words well. That dominance isn’t about shouting or calling attention to how incredible you are. If you have to tell others that you are [nice/trustworthy/dominant] it means you aren’t confident in your ability to demonstrate those qualities with your actions. […]

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What Dominance and submission is with SirStarryNight

This week’s Mentor post comes from Tumblr user SirStarryNight. It’s a nice, concise primer for people wondering what BDSM is and is not. There are definitions of the main people you’ll find on either side of the slash and, of course, not everyone will completely agree with one another’s definitions, but this post is still […]

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Equality in D/s with Innermind

Innermind writes a lot on FetLife. A lot. This time around he’s talking about equality in power exchange relationships. Which is a real thing. But I’ll let him explain. D/s is about equality, seriously D/s is a relationship between equals. When you first say that, it almost sounds like a punchline to a joke. Because […]

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Reasons to Submit with Brittunculi

This week’s Mentor post is from FetLife member Brittunculi, who is in a D/s relationship with Innermind. I’ve posted his work before and I’m sure I will do again. They both write extensively and articulately about their relationship–about how power exchange looks and feels from both sides of the slash–and it’s clear that there is […]

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Thoughts on Secretary: Then and Now

When Secretary was released in 2002 I was immediately intrigued (because the idea of being someone’s secretary greatly appealed). I remember liking it immensely upon first viewing, though for the life of me I can’t recall if it was in a cinema or on DVD. I do remember renting the DVD from Netflix and watching […]

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The Duke of Burgundy

This review is free of spoilers, though in some ways this film is better if you know nothing about it going in. It may sound odd, but I recommend not reading this review, or any review. Just watch the film—it’s incredible. A young woman, Evelyn (Chiara D’Anna) arrives at her employer’s house—Cynthia (Sidse Babett Knudsen)—a […]

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