Tag Archives: Consent

Pushing Buttons: Puns, Phobias and Everyday Consent

Consent is regularly in the news lately—usually when someone has violated another person’s sexual boundaries. From the stories themselves to the reactions they elicit, the message is that the only time we need to ask for consent is during sexual situations. Other people’s comfort and desires (outside the bedroom) are overlooked or disregarded in large […]

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Episode 074: Ask: Building Consent Culture

Episode the seventy-fourth; wherein the Pageist gets a long-held peeve or two off her chest, is tired of being tired and asks people to just… ask. The book reviewed is Ask: Building Consent Culture edited by Kitty Stryker. .44 Intro and Announcements: Circlet Press (‘Erotica for Geeks’) is offering 25% off if you use the […]

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The Bookshop Experience

[This is text of the book reviews from episode 71.] As mentioned in previous episodes, I worked in independent bookshops for years—if you’ve ever wondered what it would be like to be one of my regular customers who’d ask for recommendations for yourself or for gifts this piece will give you an idea. This writing […]

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Episode 062: Sinclair Sexsmith

Episode the sixty-second; wherein the Pageist discusses consent, feminism and just why so much erotic writing is so bad with author Sinclair Sexsmith. .43 Intro and Announcements: I’ll be teaching a class on lucid dreaming for otherwise impossible sexual fantasies at Eroticon in March! My bio will eventually appear on this page. From the endlessly […]

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Projecting Your Kink

There is a particular behaviour that I’ve witnessed—and experienced myself—in the kink scene online. It may happen out in the analogue world, too, but I don’t spend much time out there at play parties or dungeons so I can’t speak to that. From what I’ve experienced, it primarily happens from male-socialised individuals (MSI) towards female-presenting […]

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Hyenas: The Ultimate Kink Mascot

It’s generally accepted that the honey badger is nature’s BAMF. It can take a licking and keep on ticking. It straight up does not give af. I will not be disputing that in this article. But I would like to propose the female hyena as the mascot for several marginalised groups. FemDom (and the submissive […]

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Consent Accidents and Violations with Charlie Glickman

Charlie Glickman is a sex educator and all round awesome guy. This is a longer post, but it’s full of valuable information about consent. Consent Accidents and Consent Violations I was at a discussion group recently and someone shared a term that I hadn’t heard before: consent accidents. This is a really valuable nuance in […]

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