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Format of the Show

Episodes start with an Intro & Announcements, which is a few minutes about what’s in store for this episode and what’s new or upcoming regarding the show or site.

After that is My Submissive Life. This can be something that I’ve witnessed, experienced or realised about the world & generally pertains to kink or sex in one way or another. Listeners have said my rants are amusing and entertaining. That’s nice.

Then it’s time for the Book Review or Interview.

With reviews. I tell you what worked and what didn’t work so well. I’m not interested in tearing books apart, but I’m also not going to say something was brilliant if it had major flaws. Books should find their intended audiences.

Books may be fiction or non-fiction, classics, contemporary, or comics, pertaining to BDSM, polyamory or ethical non-monogamy, sex work, gender issues, LGBT topics or anything else in the realm of non-traditional sexual expression or sex education.

For the fiction books I then read one of the sexy/kinky scenes. You can always tune in just for that. I don’t mind.

Interviews may be with authors, sex educators or other people who know a thing or two about kink or sex. Like AliceinBondageLand.

Occasionally, there’s an interlude episode, where I discuss a particular topic. Previous interlude episodes have been on porn (yay!), toxic masculinity (boo!), Fetlife (WTF) and kink on film (depends on the film, really), among other things.

And that’s the show. In general, episodes are around half an hour long.

[If you’d like me to review your book, please see this page.]

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Episode 1: (31.12.15) Introductions and Meditations for submissives. Review: The Marketplace by Laura Antoniou

Episode 2: (12.01.16) Philadelphia GRUEs and the Nordic hatred of nipples. Review: Playing Well with Others by Lee Harrington and Mollena Williams

Episode 3: (24.01.16) Anal Sex Safety Snails, my first fetish event, how to deal with idiots like an ancient Roman emperor and bidding a fond farewell to Mr Alan Rickman. Review: Leather Ever After edited by Sassafrass Lowrey

Episode 4: (11.02.16) Signing up for my first kink-based conference (wahoo!), a pledge to be the best book reviewer I can be. Review: Spanking for Lovers by Janet W. Hardy.

Episode 5: (22.02.16) I get over the abject horror of talking about my feelings and own up to being one of those poly people. Review: A Life Less Monogamous by Cooper S. Beckett.

Episode 6: (04.03.16) My first kinkiversary and trip to a dungeon and gratitude. Review: The Slave by Laura Antoniou.

Episode 7: (08.03.16) The Multiamory crew guest hosts the show and reviews Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy’s The New Bottom Book and The New Topping Book. And it was excellent.

Episode 8: (16.03.16) I interview Cooper S. Beckett, author of A Life Less Monogamous and My Life on the Swingset.

Episode 9: (27.03.16) I receive the second most surprising news in the history of time but decide to deal with it with humor and information. Review: The first four volumes of Sunstone by Stjepan Sejic

Episode 10: (13.04.16) I attend my first play party, meet my first human puppy (puppies are great!), and rethink the entire concept of coming out. Review: Coming Out Like a Porn Star edited by Jiz Lee

Episode 11: (24.04.16) An interlude episode (meaning no book review), I present four writings on the topic of porn including lesbian porn, porn for men, BDSM porn and my first forays into being a porn consumer.

Episode 12: (25.05.16) Two sexy maps–one that shows the countries where my listeners are and another that shows the kinky places I’d like to go. Reviews: Different Loving and Different Loving Too by Gloria Brame, William Brame and Jon Jacobs.

Episode 13: (05.06.16) What power exchange means to me, and I finally work out what sort makes the most sense in my life (it was obvious–I was dense). Review: Paradigms of Power: Styles of Master/Slave Relationships edited by Raven Kaldera.

Episode 14: (10.06.16) My birthday rumbles around again and I have an enlightening and amusing chat with Dr Gloria Brame.

Episode 15: (26.06.16) A wrap up of my first kink-based conference and a review of Sexting: The Grownup’s Little Book of Getting Dirty Digitally by Tina Horn.

Episode 16: (30.06.16) An interlude episode between books where I brief my American listeners on the insanity that is UK politics and then talk about the dangers of toxic masculinity.

Episode 17: (19.07.16) Reviews of three books by Nookie (MsNN) about Female Led Relationships–She Makes the Rules, She’s in Control and Slave to Her Whim.

Episode 18: (24.07.16) An interlude episode about the recent changes in registration protocol on Fetlife. It’s a little ranty in there.

Episode 19: (28.07.16) An interview with Nookie (MsNN), author of the books reviewed in episode 17.

Episode 20: (04.08.16) An interview with Alex of Sex Worker Outreach Project (SWOP) Behind Bars and an app for geeks who’d like to be more productive.

Episode 21: (12.08.16) Life-changing news for the Pageist and a review of Traversing Gender: Understanding Transgender Realities by Lee Harrington.

Episode 22: (25.08.16) An app for kinky people, a podcast for kinky intellectuals and a review of The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy.

Episode 23: (01.09.16) Another app for kinky people, a hilarious podcast about bad erotica and I get in touch with my inner sadist with the help of yard salers. The books reviewed this episode are the first three volumes of Sex Criminals by Matt Fraction and Chip Zdarsky.

Episode 24: (08.09.16) An interview with Lee Harrington, author, education and instigator.

Episode 25: (16.09.16) Show developments and a review of Laura Antoniou’s The Trainer.

Episode 26: (06.10.16) The first episode in the U.K.! Two books from the Toybag Guide series: Playing with Taboo by Mollena Williams and Age Play by Lee Harrington.

Episode 27: (19.10.16) Really working for the listeners and leather as far as the eye can see. The book reviewed is Life, Leather and the Pursuit of Happiness by Steve Lenius.

Episode 28: (26.10.16) Porn for Dicks, internet at home and kink on film–so many film reviews. Also–what the media gets wrong about kink in a segment entitled 50 Shades of Bullshit.

Episode 29: (04.11.16) Quality sex toys, the philosophy of things, and I keep a sexy promise from episode 25. The book reviewed is My Dad Wrote a Porno by Jamie Morton, James Cooper, Alice Levine and Rocky Flintstone.

Episode 30: (12.11.16) Resources for people at risk after the election, outing as consent violation and the Patreon site is live. The book reviewed is My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging and Polyamory by Cooper S. Beckett.

Episode 31: (18.11.16) Femmecocks, looking for the sex books in England and getting in touch with my cross gender self. The book reviewed is Miss Vera’s Cross Gender Fun for All by Veronica Vera.

Episode 32: (25.11.16) Censorship is bad and porn is good and the site is getting a swanky new schedule. The book reviewed is Ethical Porn for Dicks: A Man’s Guide to Responsible Viewing Pleasure by Dr David Ley.

Episode 33: (01.12.16) Dr David Ley pays the Pageist a visit and we talk about the myth of porn addiction, and how porn is good for the individual and society.

Episode 34: (08.12.16) Inconsistent censorship, Paige tries to perform unconsensual service and how to find a kink-friendly therapist. The book reviewed is Sexual Outsiders: Understanding BDSM Sexualities and Communities by David M. Ortmann and Richard A Sprott.

Episode 35: (22.12.16) Fantastic fans, the importance of self-care and lesbian porno comics. The book reviewed is The Academy by Laura Antoniou.

Episode 36: (30.12.16) The one year anniversary of the show! Books reviewed: All of the books reviewed prior to the podcast.

Episode 37: (08.01.17) Kinky conferences for nerds, why hyenas should be a mascot for around half my audience and a new kink site in town. The book reviewed is Real Service by Joshua Tenpenny and Raven Kaldera.

Episode 38: (12.01.17) Neurotransmitters are LIARS, exciting site news, returning to my roots (briefly). The book reviewed is Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino

Episode 39: (19.01.17) I have a bit of a flame-out over the blase attitude of some of those in the kink community about not mixing politics with their kink. This is a very brief episode prior to a weekend away.

Episode 40: (25.01.17) A book publisher catering to kinky geeks, the impertinence of projecting one’s kinks onto others, and being kind to oneself. The book reviewed is The DIY Porn Handbook: A How-To Guide to Documenting Our Own Sexual Revolution by Madison Young

Episode 41: (26.01.17) FemDom extraordinaire AliceinBondageLand joins the Pageist to chat about a host of things including how and why Alice puts the ‘fun’ back into FemDom.

Episode 42: (02.02.17) Coming to kink through the library, welcoming my Malaysian listeners and looking forward to mangling a dead language. The book reviewed is Sex with Shakespeare: Here’s Much to Do with Pain but More with Love by Jillian Keenan.

Episode 43: (09.02.17) An interview with Pixie and Andrew of Kink Craft, a DIY kink toy store in England. We discuss Eroticon, making your own kinky implements and more.

Episode 44: (17.02.17) My second kinkiversary, trying to be an insomniac in the U.K. is hard and a big announcement regarding the show. The book reviewed is The Smart Girl’s Guide to Privacy by Violet Blue.

Episode 45: (23.02.17) Explaining asexuality through use of metaphor (sock darning is sexy!) and anxiety makes a comeback in my life in a big way. The book reviewed is Girl on the Net: How a Bad Girl Fell in Love by Girl on the Net. With special guest Winter Storm Doris!

Episode 46: (02.03.17) AliceinBondageLand returns, this time we discuss Female Led Relationships–why people enjoy them and how you can find one (no matter which side of the slash you fall on or your current relationship status).

Episode 47: (15.03.17) Colds can take a flying leap, new technology is amazing and horrible and London makes me tired. The book this episode is The Reunion by Laura Antoniou.

Episode 48: (06.04.17) Endless colds are endless and new friends are helpful. The book reviewed is BDSM: A Guide for Explorers of Extreme Eroticism by Ayzad.

Episode 49: (26.04.17) How health and kink intersect. Sexual health, mental health and physical health–all the health. Also, information on my first giveaway!

Episode 50: (05.05.17) Coming out to my mother, our culture defines ‘work’ in nonsensical ways, falling in love with an author. The books reviewed are Story of the Eye and L’Abbe C by Georges Bataille.

Episode 51: (11.05.17) An interview with Auntie Social, host of Stereo-Typed, where we talk about books and fantasy.

Episode 52: (23.05.17) Multiple life milestones, adulthood can be sneaky, and learning about your personal erotic myth. The book reviewed is Decoding Your Kink: Guide to Explore, Share and Enjoy Your Wildest Sexual Desires by Galen Fous.

Episode 53: (01.06.17) An interview with Graydancer about consent. Also, information you may not know about blood donation.

Episode 54: (10.06.17) My birthday episode. I celebrate with some of my favourite topics: kink as orientation and non-sexual kink. The book reviewed is Approaching the Swingularity by Cooper S. Beckett. Also, the sexy segment I was too ill to read in episode 47 from The Reunion by Laura Antoniou.

Episode 55: (17.06.17) Gratitude for supportive friends, the sex educator community and the best listeners in the world (mine). The book reviewed is Small Favors by Colleen Coover.

Episode 56: (22.06.17) News on my husband’s health (he has a brain tumour) and how that will affect the show. Two brief reviews, including Real Artists Have Day Jobs by Sara Benincasa, and some resources for people interested in power exchange.

Episode 57: (30.06.17) Author and pegging enthusiast, Cooper S. Beckett returns and we discuss his second novel, Approaching the Swingularity, as well as male bisexuality, pegging and more.

Episode 58: (10.08.17) An innovative idea for all of those unsolicited dick pics and morality is highly subjective. (Those two subjects are unrelated.) Also, many thank yous. The books reviewed are Bonjour Tristesse and A Certain Smile by Francoise Sagan.

Episode 59: (17.08.17) An interview with freelance journalist, author and spanking enthusiast, Jillian Keenan, whose book Sex with Shakespeare had me swooning. Spanking, consent, kink as orientation, imaginary friends and more.

Episode 60: (24.08.17) Mike Merrill, the world’s first publicly-traded person is on the show to talk about letting friends and strangers on the internet make life decisions for him, how power exchange concepts can benefit vanilla people and his newest project–a kinky erotic book about his life, lead by the readers.

Episode 61: (17.09.17) Hormones are some amazing things, as are 3D models of clitorises. The book reviewed is Sweet and Rough: Queer Smut by Sinclair Sexsmith.

Episode 62: (22.09.17) Author, Dominant and instructor Sinclair Sexsmith joins me to talk about kink and feminism, why so much erotic writing is just so BAD and their book Sweet and Rough.

Episode 63: (09.10.17) Why we can’t have nice things (why can’t we?!), an update on Walter’s diagnosis and some fairy tales from a female perspective. The book reviewed is Witches, Princesses, and Women at Arms: Erotic Lesbian Fairy Tales  edited by Sacchi Green.

Episode 64: (13.10.17) AliceinBondageLand returns, this time to talk about Chastity play. What it is, why (and how) people do it, as well as safety considerations and the best places to find gear.

Episode 65: (21.10.17) Author and relationship coach Kitty Chambliss joins me to talk about jealousy in open and polyamorous relationships and how to deal with it. She’s lovely and we had a wonderful chat.

Episode 66: (29.10.17) Censorship continues to be boring, Walter is improving, and Circlet Press shows me I’m not interested in many kinky things. I review my first Chuck Tingle: Scary Stories to Tingle Your Butt: 7 Tales of Gay Terror and it was INCREDIBLE.

Episode 67: (03.11.17) I do believe in magic! But only the bad kind. And books help with life, emotions, the universe and everything. The book this episode is Jealousy Survival Guide: How to Feel Safe, Happy and Secure in an Open Relationship by Kitty Chambliss.

Episode 68: (10.11.17) The story of what happened when I met my Ultimate Hero and also some good news. The book reviewed is Poly Land: My Brutally Honest Adventures in Polyamory by Page Turner

Episode 69: (20.11.17) Technology hates me, why comedians are dangerous people and the shop is going to be pretty cool! The book is 50 Shades of Kink by Tristan Taormino.

Episode 70: (28.11.17) Gavin and Jackie, hosts of Red Light Library, joined me to discuss the fun and fright of reviewing the less-than-spectacular erotica out there.

Episode 71: (14.12.17) Some great news, more hormone fun times and what it’s like being a regular customer in one of my bookshops. 30 mini book reviews on a variety of sex related topics.

Episode 72: (28.12.17) How my inner world reflects my exterior world, an eye-opening experience on Christmas Eve and the most collaborative book review yet. The book reviewed is The Cleis Press Sextionary.

Episode 73: (19.01.18) The first interview in a series about sex toys–making them and the pros and cons of various materials. This episode is a conversation with Richard Carver, whose material of choice is wood.

Episode 74: (28.01.18) Time for a rant about a long-held peeve or two pertaining to control and consent, and being sick is really boring. The book reviewed is Ask: Building Consent Culture edited by Kitty Stryker.

Episode 75: (05.02.18) An interview with Master Jon about books for a general audience that are useful for people into power exchange and a power exchange style based on the samurai code.

Episode 76: (12.02.18) In this episode, writer and mental health advocate JoEllen Notte joins me to discuss relationships and depression including how to be aware of and manage expectations.