Site Review: Submissive Guide

General Description

SubmissiveGuide.com is a resource site for submissives (or any s-type) with an enormous amount of information, articles and advice on any subject a lower-case person could desire. It has been active since 2009.

Features

Everything. No, really. If you’re an s-type and you want to know about something, this site probably has some sort of information for you. If you’re looking for specific guidance, use the search box or browse around using the topics in one of the navigation bars. Also available is what I call the ‘education’ navigation bar, which is at the top of the page.

Education NavBar

This includes a link to their YouTube page (which I didn’t know existed until now), workshops on various topics s-types can use for personal growth or D-types could give as assignments, as well as journal prompts (I use these frequently on this site). They also have an archive of something called Simply Service, which is a now-defunct newsletter for service-oriented people that makes my heart glow. It has essays and articles on different aspects of service, as well as practical advice.

A couple other topics the site covers.

There are book reviews (swoon) and her site was how I discovered Christina Parker’s Where I am Led, which I love.

One of my all-time, number one favourite things (of all the things on Earth) is the series on training resumes–how they’re useful and how to build your own. You can believe I have this set of posts saved on my computer and have tweaked the guidelines to better suit my own needs (added more steps).

There’s an email newsletter—I recommend signing up for it if submission is your thing. I’ve been getting it for months and it may keep you from missing something you may otherwise due to sheer volume of information.

Also, follow the Twitter account (@subguide) for the same reason.

The mobile version is exactly the same as the desktop version, which is neither here nor there. It just is. Just letting you know I checked and the mobile version looks the same and you can zoom in on text by double tapping your screen so it works a-okay.

Bio Break

I don’t usually talk about the person(s) behind a site specifically, but SubmissiveGuide only has one person running it, LunaKM. She did an interview on Erotic Awakening that’s worth a listen. The site has been running since 2009. That one mortal human being coordinates the number of things she does is impressive. There are guest posts, but those must be curated and she still does a gargantuan amount of work besides.

I’ve been visiting the site off and on for many months—perhaps more than a year and a half—and still didn’t know everything about it until writing this review. Does she not sleep? She has a Master, too, so it’s not like she doesn’t have a social life.

Respect, lady.

Flaws

Design (it’s always the design with me, isn’t it?)

Due to the amount of information available the site feels cluttered. The ads are off-putting (though I am not judging—the amount of work that goes into the site deserves to be compensated), and fair dues, it’s difficult to make ads blend into a site well—HeyEpiphora is one of the few sites that has accomplished it, but that’s the exception.

The entire site would need a complete overhaul to make it feel less chaotic and give it a more professional, streamlined look. I’m not going to pick apart specific design elements, but I do want to stress that if you visit this site, don’t be overwhelmed by the volume of information, as I first was. It felt like walking into a vast library where all the books were stacked on the floor in general categories. Everything I wanted was there, but boy was it intimidating.

There must be a keyword-finder software in use, as often, in the middle of posts, part of a word will be linked in a way that doesn’t seem particularly useful (to me). Perhaps other people use this feature or it’s a time-saving device when posting, but when I’m using the site it’s distracting.

Search Function?

I was putting this post together and searched for ‘Where I am Led’ (I know I read a review of it there) but the search function didn’t return the review. I also searched for Christina Parker (the author). So perhaps the search feature doesn’t work well.

Overall review

SubmissiveGuide is the go-to resource for s-types new to the scene (or those interested in improving themselves or their submission). There is a wealth of information, advice, articles and education.

4/5 (That one point is entirely design-based.)

Site Review: The Cage

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[Full disclosure—I advertise my podcast on The Cage in exchange for mentioning it on the show. This review will cover both pros and cons of the site. I wouldn’t support the site if I didn’t believe it had something to offer the community.]

The Cage is a new (started in early 2016) social media site for kinky people. The owners already have a successful version in Israel and decided to expand to an English-speaking market.

Features

Classifieds. If you’re looking for a date, a D-type or someone who’s just DTF, head right over there. No reason to spread the unsolicited junk shots all over. Handy!

Forums. It’s phpbb style forums, which I think everyone on Creation will agree is an improvement over some other places.

Personal blogs. Make your own and follow other people’s. You can save drafts of your posts, which makes me happy, because that’s not possible other places and if you’re working on a long piece and want to save it for safety or to finish later, well too bad.

An events calendar. This could be improved upon. Currently, it shows all events happening and who’s going. At the moment, there aren’t a large number of members so it’s not a big deal, but once there’s a substantial number, wading through events for places in the entire English-speaking world will be… time-consuming.

It's very pretty, though.

It’s very pretty, though.

A magazine section for information and resources about BDSM that anyone can contribute to. (We’ll see how that develops as membership grows. It’ll be difficult to maintain quality/accuracy once enough people are submitting pieces.)

A chatroom. I haven’t used this yet and so can’t speak to how well it works, but it’s there if you enjoy chatting with other kinky people.

A podcast section. I had no idea how many kink-based podcasts there were out there. I’ve discovered several new ones and it’s amazing!

Two themes—a blue/dark grey and a red/dark grey.

Search for people based on specific information like their role, gender or location.

It looks great on mobile. Holy crap. Something that works on mobile, sakes alive.

Membership is free and open.

Flaws

You can ignore people, but not report them.

The site isn’t yet as inclusive or offers as many roles or relationship options as other places. But the owners actually respond to suggestions (go tell it on the mountaintop!) so it’s worth the investment to join and ask for what would make you feel welcome. The more people who ask for the same things (an expanded number of role types, for example) the more likely they are to move that to the top of their priorities.

Current options both for bio and searches.

Current options both for bio and searches.

Eff if I Know

There isn’t an area for local groups (yet?) I don’t know what plans there are for the future. The English-speaking world is vast so people near one another may want to have their own group to plan local events.

Ditto to photos and videos. You can add images to posts in your blog, but currently there are no photo albums in individual profiles. Making it so a user could rearrange their photos—dare anyone dream?

I also don’t see a way to add videos, though I believe they mentioned planning to add that feature in the future during an interview on an episode of Perverted Podcast.

A Word About Membership & Community

They currently have around 1500 members and are growing slowly.

Like any place based on community—it is what you make of it. In order for it to succeed, people need to show up and make conversation, start blogs and read other blogs, contribute to the magazine, post classifieds, etc. Some people want to wait until the site has more members and more traffic—that’s not how it works. You become the traffic.

If you’re tired of the popularity contests, if you want to meet new people and have new conversations in a (much) more organised format, give The Cage a try. Bring your friends so they can meet new people, as well. I genuinely do not care if you listen to my show—turn on adblocker so you don’t have to see my ad for all I care.

I would, however, love to have conversations and blogs to read and more people to interact with. If you join the site, find me here, feel free to add me to your contacts.

You can also follow the site on Twitter, they post some pretty interesting articles: @thecageco