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Dec 31 2016

Periodicals: Defanging Jealousy and Feminist Porn

Allies (how to be a good one to LGBTQ+ people): Even if you think you’ve got it locked down–read this. Even if you’re a member of the alphabet soup–read it anyway. Maybe you do have it locked down! You’ll learn you’re amazing! If not, you’ll learn how to be the fantastic ally you know you can be.

Allies (being a better one to black people): See above. This article addresses Well-Meaning-White-Woman-Syndrome and ‘reverse racism’.

BDSM (personal experiences): Luna Malbroux writes about reconciling her submissive tendencies and desire for kink play with being black in the though-provoking (and amusing–her stand-up comedy chops are obvious) Fusion article ‘When you’re into BDSM but it’s too soon because you’re black’

Jealousy (dealing with): An articulate and useful article by Max Cantor on how to de-fang jealousy that will be useful for people of any age in any sort of relationship.

Porn (ethical):Erika Lust is crowd-sourcing porn from the female perspective on XConfessions. (And it sounds freakin HOT.)

Productivity: This one isn’t kinky but it is quite useful–it’s a blog post from the fine people at MOO of 7 Secrets to Homeworking Success. It’s the first time I’ve heard working from home called ‘homeworking’, but the list has some recommendations I hadn’t heard before so it’s worth a look.

Sex Toys (best and worst of 2016):Dangerous Lilly has some recommendations (and some must-avoids) for both toys and unethical toy-makers based on her 2016 experiences.

Sex Toy Manufacturers (unethical): Speaking of people to consider not patronising. theNotice has an article on how Lelo continues to make questionable choices in everything from sex toys to their new condom that doesn’t tell you when it fails.

Sexting: This piece by Alana Hope Levinson on Medium called ‘Be My Sext Buddy?’ is about a different type of fuck buddy–a purely (or mostly purely) digital fuck buddy. All the fornication remains on the screen or between your ears. It’s aimed at heterosexuals, but the concept could work for any gender pairing or even group chat. Ooohh, group chaaaat.

Sexual Health (at all ages): Sexual pleasure is important at any age and Kinkly has an article on Vibrators for Women over 50. This is aimed at people with vulvas, but, let’s face it–that’s the group that’s most ignored and repressed in our culture about sexual pleasure and expression.

 

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