Episode 034: Sexual Outsiders

Episode the thirty-fourth; wherein the Pageist is confounded by inconsistent censorship, attempts to perform nonconsensual submission and takes an academic view of kink. The book reviewed is Sexual Outsiders: Understanding BDSM Sexualities and Communities by David M. Ortmann and Richard A. Sprott.

.49 Intro & Announcements:

  • Two new survey responses! You can fill out the survey here.
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  • I’m now on Quora as Paige La Marchand if you’d like to follow me or ask a question.
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  • My Instagram is new, but I’m enjoying it.
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3.41 My Submissive Life:

  • Sites not allowed in public places in the U.K.:
  • Sites allowed in public places (when I wrote this)
    • Grue.space: Nevermind the topless woman in shibari
    • My actual website: This is fine. Thankfully. But, really? If you can’t get to libsyn, just come to my site to listen to the show.
    • Tumblr: Tumblr is 75% porn! Seriously?!
    • Fetlife: Because irony is dead.
    • The Cage: See above.
  • Big hugs and thanks to Muse for offering her internet!
  • Paige tries to provide service to her local coffee shop. Have you ever been so service-horny you’d tried to serve a company?

10.03 Book Review:

  • The book this episode is Sexual Outsiders: Understanding BDSM Sexualities and Communities by David M. Ortmann and Richard A. Sprott. An academic exploration of different types of BDSM and how people in sexual outlier communities can integrate their sexualities into their full selves. It also helps psychologists and psychiatrists understand how to better serve their clients in the BDSM community and instructs kinky people on how to find the best therapist for their needs.
  • Kink Aware Professionals Directory: Professionals in various fields who aren’t going to flip out if you mention a flogger.
  • Different Loving by Dr Gloria Brame. This would make an excellent pair with Sexual Outsiders. I interviewed the author in episode 14.

25.55 Closing Remarks:

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  • -Fangirls loudly everywhere- Aei! A Page kiss <3

    I wondered if perhaps your experience of the censorship was to do with self flagging (which sounds far more interesting than it is!). I know that I had an option to tag/set my tumblr status as containing adult content when I first made it and that there are also tools on WordPress and other blog site hosts that do the same.

    I do know that I was posting on tumblr lots of pretty bdsm pictures without my adult content button ticked for a while (in fact I'm not sure I ever ticked it and it's a full on nekkid sexy feed now… hmm).

    For the back end of my work website, which is hosted independently, other than an agreement with my host provider not to host illegal content there is no 'self flagging.' Make a website, upload the pr0nz, job done. Perhaps why you could get to bigger fetish sites like fetlife but not smaller blog sites etc. Uk based Sex toy sites are probably just on a list of stuff to block, or its done by keywords and sex / porn is picked up more than fetish…. interesting though!

    I remember a time in the not so distant past where searching for pretty much anything on Google images (my favourite one was simply 'Deer') eventually got you porn if you scrolled down enough (deer got you a nekkid lady on a taxidermy deer holding a rifle reallly awkwardly after about 20 images…). Technology has gotten better (you now just get deer even with your safe search off;)) for google but obviously not that reliable for others at screening content yet!

  • thepageist says:

    I bet you’re right about the self flagging.

    And ah, yes, the inevitable porn in a Google search. That was hilarious.

    Have another. mwah! 😀

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