One Year of Kinky Blogging

Happy anniversary to me! (source)

Happy anniversary to me! (source)

A year ago—May 10, 2015—I started this site roughly three months after the light bulb came on and I realized I was kinky. (My kinkiversary is February 14, which I can’t believe I didn’t post an essay about. I did talk about it in episode six of the podcast.)

I learn about new topics by consuming various sorts of media pertaining to that subject, and wanted to have a place for reviews of what I was consuming and essays about the myriad thoughts whirling through my head. A blog seemed a good idea.

It wasn’t long before I stumbled across something called the 30 Days of Kink Blog Challenge somewhere else on the internet. Never excellent at keeping to a schedule, I knew trying to do one a day wouldn’t be possible. September had thirty days, though, and if I started early I could do a few a month and have those scheduled for when I was on vacation.

And I wanted to focus on my vacation on vacation, you know? (source)

And I wanted to focus on my vacation on vacation, you know? (source)

That was in June, though, and I worried I might lose interest in the intervening months. I pictured May and June being full of posts, then nothing in July and August, then September having a post every day followed by nothing, as I went on my merry way—something else having captured my interest.

I had not counted on how vast the kink world is. A person can become as involved (or uninvolved) as they’d like. There are endless topics to learn about—and I don’t mean practicals like flogging or needle play or even power exchange—but working with NCSF (National Coalition for Sexual Freedom) to educate law enforcement and government officials about kink. People teach and write and advocate.

The world of BDSM is Narnia once you push through the initial layers of fetish gear. It’s expansive and only grows weirder and more wonderful the further in you go.

Though perhaps not as weird as this. (source)

Though perhaps not as weird as this. (source)

There’s all sorts of information to absorb, synthesize and share.

And I am an information whore. Give me all your data. Some people go through subfrenzy and want to experience all of the types of play available. I want to read everything. And take notes. It’s like some kinky version of subfrenzy. Nerdfrenzy.

The more I learn about myself the more comfortable I feel and the more I want to help others find that sort of comfort within themselves. Kink has moved me forward in life in ways therapy couldn’t begin to.

What began as a personal journey is becoming a more public and political one.

Last week I applied for a small business license and became the sole proprietor of a business that currently runs a podcast, but will one day, hopefully, include other facets like teaching or publishing or voice work for audio books.

I'm looking forward to doing my taxes this year... (source)

I’m looking forward to doing my taxes this year… (source)

It’s nice to look forward to getting up in the morning. Even if some things I learn some days—about the ways sex workers or people doing consensual things with one another are discriminated against—make me frustrated with the way the world works. I have more purpose now. I have a community and a cause, though I’m not wild about that word, that’s important. There’s something worthwhile to work for that matters and that can change individual’s lives even if it can’t change the world.

And I have a place to share (and meticulously index) personal stories, writings, reviews and all manner of other information for what promises to be happy years of nerdfrenzy.

Thank you to the people who’ve been here during the first year and here’s to the next.

White people are good dancers, what? (source)

White people are good dancers, what? (source)

[Images from Black Books. If you haven’t seen the show I cannot recommend it enough.]

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