30 Days of Kink Day 25: How Open are You?

Day 25: How open are you about your kinks?

I’m quite open because I have this condition where, if I’m excited about something, I can’t shut myself up.

Luckily, I also have something called ‘Fuck You if You Don’t Like It’ Syndrome wherein I inherently feel judgmental people can take a flying leap. This is me. I’d rather you hate me for me than love me for being someone I’m not.

I’ve had both of these conditions since birth, as far as I can tell.

I've just worked out why I don't like gags. They'd keep me from telling people to eff off if they don't like me for me.

I’ve just worked out why I don’t like gags. They’d keep me from telling people to eff off if they don’t like me for me.


I live most of my life online (the majority of the friends I have live in my computer) and I’m very open with them. We’ve known one another for over ten years—there are roughly twenty of us—and everyone is accepting and supportive.

My husband also knows everything about me because we have that sort of completely honest relationship. And I couldn’t keep anything from someone I live with if I wanted to. He’s also great about it and is happy I’m happy.

I do keep that side of myself out of my work life and from my family, as I think it’s rude to scare the normals and I don’t want to kill my mother. Or spend eighty-five hours trying to explain it to her.


  • Joanna Tripp says:

    I don’t think 85 hours would be adequate to explain myself to my mother:)

    • thepageist says:

      🙂 I think my mother would be confused but supportive in her own weird way. And we wouldn’t talk about it.

      • Joanna Tripp says:

        My mom turns 91 next month, she would be supportive but she would want to fix me. I must be broken some how.I have always been her little boy and my being a woman much less a kinky woman would distress her. I doubt I will ever reveal the kinky side to her.

        • thepageist says:

          At a certain point, letting people see what they want to see is almost a kindness. And less stressful for us.

  • Joanna Tripp says:

    You are so right

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