Finding a partner is difficult in the vanilla world [understatement warning] so it’s no surprise attempting to find one with kinks that complement your own is exponentially more complicated.
Anything that can make the process easier is welcome.
What is a submissive Training Resume/CV?
Both are documents an s-type can give a prospective D-type when they reach the stage of the relationship where they’re considering a power exchange. Or whatever they both want.
A training CV is documentation of training a sub has done/is doing. This should, in theory, never stop expanding.
A submissive CV is a shorter document (1-2 pages) that includes what the s-type is looking for, their qualifications in brief, experience with BDSM, limits, skills, hobbies and interests.
The training CV is something that a prospective D-type would request after having seen the submissive CV, as it’s much more detailed. Though I suppose an s-type could hand over a giant binder.
Speaking of which…
Contents of a Training Resume/CV
(these are all from Submissive Guide)
Beginning Your Training Resume: This is a list of general information, some of which is covered in the regular CV, others which are not, but would give a potential D-type a picture of who you are. Like pet peeves, religion/spirituality/beliefs, causes that you’re active in, etc.
Recording Your Training History: This is like the part of a typical resume where you list your previous jobs and what you did in them. It’s a detailed list of the training you received in your previous relationships beginning with the first one.
Recording Your Completed Training: This is a section so prospective D-types can see what you are proficient at. The example given on the page seems needlessly detailed, but the concept of how fulfilling a sub finds a task would be useful for a Dominant.
Mapping Out Your Ideal Submission: Here you’ll write about your ideal relationship, the structure it has and the level of protocol. The post has resources for mind-mapping, as well.
The BDSM Checklist that Will Really Help You: While the idea of a checklist is great and should be included in the CV I’m not madly in love with the one linked here. I would recommend the CEPE BDSM Checklist as well as this vanilla one that covers some things the BDSM lists leave out. (Yes, that last one is for teens/20-somethings, but I promise it’s still worthwhile.)
Add Your Reading List to Your Training Resume: What it says. Not only the list of books you’ve read (and if you’re me, want to read), but also what you learned/thought about those books. It will show your D-type that you’re interested in learning more about your submission.
Add Cons, Classes and Events to Your Training Resume: This falls under what the author calls community exposure. ‘Exposure to the Community’ doesn’t sound better, though. Anyway, it’s a section for what it sounds like—information about where you went and what you learned whilst there.
My Training Resume
Though I’m not looking for a Dominant I still intend to create one of these as a learning exercise. This site would be part of my CV, as it has submissive journal prompts, essays and my thoughts on the kink-tinged books, films and other media I consume. Seeing as how many s-types have websites, there should probably be a place on the CV for their blog address.
I have a giant binder of my writings, because I like the physicality of being able to see and feel how much I’ve written and learned. I rather enjoy the picture of giving a Dominant the option of reading the digital or the analog version. Then thunking down this thing.