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Sep 06 2015

Submissive CVs and Resumes

Finding a partner is difficult in the vanilla world [understatement warning] so it’s no surprise attempting to find one with kinks that complement your own is exponentially more complicated.

Anything that can make the process easier is welcome.

Enter the Training CV/Resume and the Submissive CV/Resume.

This is the sort of 'Dom' you end up with if you don't do your paperwork, subs.

This is the sort of ‘Dom’ you end up with if you don’t do your paperwork, subs. (credit)

What is a submissive Training Resume/CV?

Both are documents an s-type can give a prospective D-type when they reach the stage of the relationship where they’re considering a power exchange. Or whatever they both want.

A training CV is documentation of training a sub has done/is doing. This should, in theory, never stop expanding.

A submissive CV is a shorter document (1-2 pages) that includes what the s-type is looking for, their qualifications in brief, experience with BDSM, limits, skills, hobbies and interests.

The training CV is something that a prospective D-type would request after having seen the submissive CV, as it’s much more detailed. Though I suppose an s-type could hand over a giant binder.

Speaking of which…

Contents of a Training Resume/CV

(these are all from Submissive Guide)

Beginning Your Training Resume: This is a list of general information, some of which is covered in the regular CV, others which are not, but would give a potential D-type a picture of who you are. Like pet peeves, religion/spirituality/beliefs, causes that you’re active in, etc.

Recording Your Training History: This is like the part of a typical resume where you list your previous jobs and what you did in them. It’s a detailed list of the training you received in your previous relationships beginning with the first one.

Recording Your Completed Training: This is a section so prospective D-types can see what you are proficient at. The example given on the page seems needlessly detailed, but the concept of how fulfilling a sub finds a task would be useful for a Dominant.

Mapping Out Your Ideal Submission: Here you’ll write about your ideal relationship, the structure it has and the level of protocol. The post has resources for mind-mapping, as well.

The BDSM Checklist that Will Really Help You: While the idea of a checklist is great and should be included in the CV I’m not madly in love with the one linked here. I would recommend the CEPE BDSM Checklist as well as this vanilla one that covers some things the BDSM lists leave out. (Yes, that last one is for teens/20-somethings, but I promise it’s still worthwhile.)

Add Your Reading List to Your Training Resume: What it says. Not only the list of books you’ve read (and if you’re me, want to read), but also what you learned/thought about those books. It will show your D-type that you’re interested in learning more about your submission.

Add Cons, Classes and Events to Your Training Resume: This falls under what the author calls community exposure. ‘Exposure to the Community’ doesn’t sound better, though. Anyway, it’s a section for what it sounds like—information about where you went and what you learned whilst there.

My Training Resume

Though I’m not looking for a Dominant I still intend to create one of these as a learning exercise. This site would be part of my CV, as it has submissive journal prompts, essays and my thoughts on the kink-tinged books, films and other media I consume. Seeing as how many s-types have websites, there should probably be a place on the CV for their blog address.

I have a giant binder of my writings, because I like the physicality of being able to see and feel how much I’ve written and learned. I rather enjoy the picture of giving a Dominant the option of reading the digital or the analog version. Then thunking down this thing.

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